Right off the bat, I guarantee there are two different points of view of this picture... that of a guy, and the other of a girl. Because no matter what your point of view is, if you're a girl, it definitely isn't the same view of a guy, no matter which one of you thinks the rings are beautiful. The same thing happens when the thing those rings represent is mentioned - marriage.
I sometimes believe that marriage is the most controversial thing in the world, more than where you go to college or how much money you make, sometimes even more than if you have a child or not. It's sad that the most beautiful and sacred thing in life is look upon so negatively. There's even a name for this negative outlook on marriage ... ball and chain.
To me, being married isn't being "tied down" or having a ball and chain, but sharing everything about myself with another person. On the outside, to someone not married, marriage can look like just that, a burden, something that drags them down; but in reality, marriage is the opposite of that. Being married is being free, it's allowing you to be so vulnerable that you let another person see every single part of you, allowing them to become a part of you.
People seem to be so against young marriage, because they say it won't work out, they said that there's "more life to live." But the best way I can think of to counteract those claims is that when you look at the marriages that have lasted 30, 40, even 50+ years, if you ask them when they got married, most of the time, they were barely adults - 17, 18, 19, 21. So sorry haters, your "there's no such thing as young (and true) love" theory isn't all that truthful. I revealed that I have 2 boys, and that I'm engaged. I'm 18, and will probably be married before I can legally drink the Champagne I toast with at my wedding.
I believe that I've found the person I am meant to be with, and the fun thing is, he's been there all along. If you believe in that little thing called fate, then you believe that things are the way they are because that's the way they are meant to be. I had a crush on Joey (my fiancé) since I was probably in the 3rd grade, and something always told me as I grew up that I wanted to be with him, and of course - I wanted him to be with nobody but me. And it worked out for me, fate brought us together, fate brought us the boys, and fate will bring us our marriage - of course we make the decisions on all the details, but in the end, things will end up exactly the way they should be - and I don't believe that he is my ball and chain, and I'm certainly not his. Marriage, or any relationship for that matter is about give and take, understanding as well as head-butting, but it's not about limiting the other person, and it never will be. The day that marriage becomes that is the day it ends in that ugly mess of papers and lawyers called divorce.
When people try and find a mate, they seem to never act for love - which no matter what today's society says, is the basis of all relationships especially marriage. People look for a mate the way they look for a job, or a college - what do they look like? How much will they pay me/I pay them? Do they have a bright future? A good background? A good name? Wake up people!! This isn't 1840 - in the USA arranged marriages are a thing of the past, and marrying for money is a completely vapid and despicable choice. In today's day in age, a person can be who they want to be, with a partner or without. A mate should help, not hinder, and should be chosen for the right reasons, those that compliment you and them. For all of you that think I'm crazy and think that you can "learn" to love someone... good luck. Oh, and that whole "I can change him/her" thing ... not exactly the brightest idea.
Love someone for who they are. Marry someone because you want to .. not because anyone else tells you to. Life is for the taking ... and so are all the singles.
Lastly - look down and tell me ... which picture is "right?"
Who's the real ball and chain?
Do you have one?
1 comment:
Marriage has definitely become a very controversial subject; especially with gay marriage being one of the most highly debated current issues in our society. I agree with you here– there is nothing wrong with getting married at a young age if one feels it is right and meant to be. It is better to follow your heart and do what makes you happy. It bothers me when people who are stuck in the past criticize things such as marrying young or same sex marriages.
In my opinion, marrying young for reasons like you have discussed is much more valid then those who are older and marry in Vegas on a whim, or those that marry for money or marry somebody because their parents picked them. Marriage is certainly about love, happiness and sharing your life with another person. It is really all about luck as far as when you find that person and what age you are when you find them. You just happened to find that person earlier then most, and there’s nothing wrong with that. If one feels burdened or tied down by marriage, they are simply not with the right person. When people don't follow their heart like you are and marry for the wrong reasons, that is when it becomes a burden and ends in divorce. Since you are choosing marriage for all of the right reasons, you will be happy.
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